The best quality education is to make the educated people play their own strengths and potential, that is, “becoming the best self”
How to make children have the best education?We continue to interpret the book “Self -Driven Growth” and will tell us the answer.
If education can be divided into levels, it is roughly divided into five levels.
Confucius’ “has no class and no class, and taught according to his aptitude” is at the highest level.Among the three thousand disciples of Confucius, there were 72 sages, and more than 2,000 people were ordinary people.When these disciples have played their own strengths and potential through education, they have been actively growing up, which is a successful education.It would be impossible to cultivate all three thousand disciples into sages.
Second -class education is to encourage students with interests, such as attracting students with scholarships and other interests, so that they can study hard.The third -class education is an instilling education, such as the education method of Hengshui Middle School.These education has its reasons and desictions.
The fourth -class education was running with the child back with the child. It was almost time to let it go, so that the child ran the last paragraph to sprint.This kind of education that makes children grow passively and lacks self -growth will inevitably appear disappointing, because at this time the child has lost the strength and courage to run.
The children who educated in this way are holding the hold of holding, but the heart does not control. His feet have no strength, and there is no direction in front of him. The future of life is either to fall or bump.If the parents are not helicopters, they are not able to let their children rise the top of the mountain, and the child will break his head in the morning and evening.
The worst education is that children and parents are starting to work.Such education is a failure.
The value of the book “Self -Driven Growth”
This book tells us how to cultivate children’s self -discipline scientifically and effectively, cultivate children’s autonomous motivation, so as to allow children to move towards success and avoid failure of failure.
There are many recommenders in this book. Teacher Wuyun chose some recommended words:
Tsinghua University Zhao Yuyu said: Parents are most importantly not to make their children succeed, but to let their children work hard to live their wishes.It will harm their long -term driving forces for their temporary performance and performance of children, and they will lose their losses and even endless troubles.
Gao Xuemei, a professor of psychology in Southwest University said: The best growth is self -growth, and the best control is self -control.
Fan Deng believes that when the child is controlled too tightly, we unconsciously become a standard machine to solve the problem. We have taken away the opportunity to be strong and confident and brave.There are no passive requirements, no rating, and no rewards, but it is precisely this “self -driving time”, which is a must -have experience for children to succeed.
What parents should do are to awaken their children’s internal driving force, and let their children learn to think independently early, so as to control their lives.In this way, the child will not get out of control when the child leaves the parent control.
How to judge that children have a sense of control when doing something and get internal drive?
When the child completes this, there will not be the idea of “I have to complete”, but a sense of joy and satisfaction.This state is to cultivate internal drive.
At this time, the child’s performance may be serious and rapidly doing homework, and then do other things he wants to do; or take the initiative to review and preview to prepare for the next day’s learning.
What would happen if the child is stressful for a long time
Long -term study of competition, or is often scolded by teachers and parents, will make children lose their control of themselves, and it is more likely to be plagued by stress in the future.Under continuous pressure, human stress systems will be activated frequently and for a long time.
The stress system includes forehead cortex and hippocampus.The forehead cortex can keep us rational and self -control.There is a disadvantage of forehead cortex. Once the pressure is too large, it will fall.
Long -term and continuous pressure can also cause adrenaline to continuously secrete cortisol.Cortisol will weaken hippocampus cells.Haima body is responsible for creating and storing memory. When the pressure is too large, cortisol secretes too much until the hippocampus cells are killed.
Haima body also has the effect of helping us to relieve and terminate anxiety.For example, when the child was poorly examined, he comforted himself and said: “The last time I did not get well, my mother did not train me, so there is no need to worry.” But when the hippocampus was damaged, this kind of self -consolation was gone.Children are prone to emotional collapse and various problems occur.
It is the worst education method to learn to learn by scolding. It will not only destroy the child’s self -driving force, but also damage the hippocampus, resulting in the storage memory being destroyed.So I often see such a phenomenon: the more children are beaten and scolded, the more they can’t remember what they have learned.
The original intention of teachers’ parents is good, but often “can’t be played.” This kind of wrong conceptual belt is biased, or too much quick success, leading to wrong educational behavior.
Not every child can win academic, most children will become ordinary people
If the child’s interest is eliminating elsewhere, instead of being unhappy with the prestigious school, it is better to talk to the child’s future life planning, so that he chooses the future life path, but it is easy to stimulate his internal driver forces.Essence
In this era, most knowledge and skills can be learned from the Internet.As long as they are self -driving children, they will be willing to make themselves progress to adapt to the future. They can use enough network resources or social resources to enrich themselves and work hard for the future they want.
Those children who are urged tightly and ruthlessly may take high scores, get certificates, and win trips, but this persecution is also controlling the children, letting them lose their sense of control, and feel stress and anxiety.
Even if they have achieved achievements because of their past persecution, the damage deep in their hearts still cannot be smooth.Moreover, it may not be the life achievement that the child really wants.No one wants to go all out for things that you don’t like; only those loves from the bottom of your heart can make people give up without regrets.
Most children’s attitude towards learning is difficult to achieve the level of “love”, but at least it should be liked, not bored.Those continuous learning pressures that have no breathing machine will cause children to be bored or tired of learning; those persecution and control, even scolding, will hurt the child’s brain.
Only by attaching importance to the education of autonomy, competence, and belonging can we make children autonomous, self -discipline, and self -study. Such education conforms to the principles of informedness and deeds, just like the educational methods of a century -old school.
All parents want their children to succeed. Only by real inner inspiration or autonomous motivation can this desire be possible.Scientific research related to motivation clearly states that they have developed from a sense of competence or autonomy.
“I don’t call things.” Shengyasawa, who is operating in Japan, also thinks so.Indeed, there is a successful desire; if you are annoying, you will only shrink back.Is it possible to expect a person who is bored and retract. Is it possible?
Let’s keep in mind Confucius’ teaching and knowledge of informedness, guiding children to autonomy, self -discipline, and self -study, and make good use of three -dimensional method to allow children to obtain better education.
Teachers and parents, come on together!
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